SOCIAL SKILLSSocial skills are arguably the most important set of abilities a person can have. Human beings are social animals and a lack of good social skills can lead to a lonely life, contributing to anxiety and depression. Great social skills help you meet interesting people, get that job you want, progress further in your career and relationships.
- Person to person communication that involves giving, receiving, and interpreting messages.
- They are primarily developed through learning. In addition to the goals and messages a person wishes to convey, the interaction will depend upon the particular situation he/she is in, as well as aspects of his/her personality, past experiences, what he/she sees in the other person and the consequent impression arrived at.
- Includes detailed verbal (semantic content of speech, the words and sentences) and nonverbal or paraverbal behavior (posture, use of eyes, tone of voice, and facial expressions).
- Influenced by the person’s culture and the particular social group he/she belongs to.
- Increases with social reinforcement from others. Such rewards might include being pleased, intrigued, calmed, or motivated in the presence of others, which usually results in increased self-esteem and worth.
- Are mutually interactive in nature, and require appropriate timing and reciprocity of specific behaviors.
- Reflect environmental factors that include age, sex, and status of the other person.
Developing appropriate social behavior may be impaired for various reason such as:
- Inappropriate or lack of adequate models
- Failure to be provided with learning opportunities
- Periods of emotional disturbances that interfere with or impair social skills
A failure to learn adequate social skills can lead to feelings of isolation, loneliness, rejection, and poor self-esteem. Psychological problems, that can be both the cause and effect, such as depression, anxiety, sexual dysfunctions, aggression, and suicidal attempts are common. The severity of the social impairment varies more from person to person than from one situation to the next. In one person, the problems may be poor eye contact, with another, it may include every aspect of verbal and nonverbal behavior. These problems are usually seen in most or all social situations.
- The ability to remain relaxed, or at a tolerable level of anxiety while in social situations
- Listening skills, including letting others know you are listening
- Empathy with and interest in others' situations
- The ability to build rapport, whether natural or learnt
- Knowing how, when and how much to talk about yourself - 'self disclosure'
- Appropriate eye contact
After receiving verbal instruction by a role model, you act out brief real-life situations you have encountered in your own environment.
This technique is designed to allow you to exercise and practice the different aspects of behavior being trained in the session but they do not usually include real-life situations.
The trainer is used as a model in hopes of demonstrating appropriate behavior for you .
Gives you an opportunity to try out newly learned behavior in real-life situations you encounter which are likely to produce rewarding consequences.
You are taught different behaviors in detail and you learn the importance of their use in social situations.
Skills that you have learned through verbal instruction and modeling are pleasantly shaped through reinforcement.
Speech: listening, talking
Literacy: writing, reading
Walking, arts and crafts, craft, sport